THESE ARE SIGNS THAT MAY MEAN AN INDIVIDUAL IS BEING INCESTED OR WAS INCESTED IN THE PAST. THEY MAY POINT TO OTHER PROBLEMS AS WELL, BUT THE GREATER THE NUMBER OF THEM THAT APPLY TO A PERSON, THE MORE LIKELY INCEST IS RESPONSIBLE.
Whether the behavior changes are sudden or gradual they must addressed and understood. These changes include a wide range of conduct including:
-Aggressive/boisterous behavior- hitting, pushing, yelling at others, throwing tantrums…any of these can be the result of holding in the confusion, fear and anger caused by incest and releasing it on others around them.
-Isolation-wanting to be alone, uneasiness/anxiety around others, hiding behind a loved one, hiding in closets and other small areas, running away,
-Sleep problems-fear of bedtime, anxiety about being alone in a room, nightmares(especially of being chased or seeking a place to hide), bed wetting
-Site Anxiety/Fear/Avoidance-fear of a particular place or room in home…often bedroom, bathroom, attic, basement or cellar, garage, shed or other area where the incestor has more privacy and less chance of being discovered
-Extended Sadness/Depression-especially if child is unable to explain why they feel the way they do, the “secret” of incest is too heavy to bear
-Religious zealousness-person absorbs themself in religion to the point of obsession
-Unusual bathroom habits-refusal to defecate(may sit on floor in bathroom to hold bowel movements in), hiding behind fixtures, soiling themself with feces
-Avoidance of individual/certain activity-if a person shows anxiety or fear about seeing someone or about going anywhere alone with that person, making excuses to stay away or pretending to be ill
-Early age masturbation-especially compulsive behavior or masturbating publicly
-Play Behavior with sexual overtones-holding dolls in sexual positions, speaking for dolls using phrases or words that are not age appropriate
-Low self-esteem-feelings of worthlessness, saying they are a “bad” person, but not being able to say why
-Inability to swallow pills-if a person is unable to take a pill orally when it is common behavior at their age, it may be a resistance to oral activity tied in with the fear of forced oral behavior during incest
-TMJ-initials for trans-mandibular jaw disease-very painful condition where jaw moves into unnatural positions or unlocks…this may begin as a reult of the mouth being forced open
-Cruelty to animals or insects
-Self-Injury-tearing skin, picking or biting nails, pulling hair/eyelashes/eyebrows out, cutting skin, burning skin
-Suicidal talk/thoughts/behavior
-Desire to change name-indicates an inner compulsion to rid oneself of the name that has been tarnished by incest and the pain associated with it
-Body memories-even if the mind has repressed/blocked the memory of incest…the body does remember and discomfort, unexpected urges and body aches can be signs of what happened
-Eating disorders- anorexia, bulemia, overeating to cover the pain, becoming obese to make oneself less sexually desirable…all these can be caused by incest
-Alcohol/drug abuse-often used as a way to escape trauma of any type
-Obssessive Compulsive Disorder-(OCD)-the need to obssessively clean oneself or ones surroundings, to repeat checking locks, making sure the stove and iron are off etc. can all stem from incest and the need to have control over things when we have experienced “being totally controlled” against our will
-Sexual addiction/sexual frigidity-going to either extreme can mean that incest has damaged our self image
-Wearing loose, baggy clothing-attempting to hide/protect ourselves from sexual advances
-Fear of abandonment-accentuated because incest perpetrators frequently use threats that family will be destroyed if the victim tells anyone of the incest
-Inability to trust-often difficult to ascertain, but trust is destroyed by incest
Please write me with any comments, questions or suggestions you may have. I’m very open to hearing your thoughts and your experiences!
I am a 52 year old woman and was astonished to discover I have almost all of these symptoms. I have always suspected I am a child of incest. Although I have dealt with a lot of depression, I also am curious about if many of my diseases could be attributed to incest as well. Does anyone know if there is a site that might explain this more thoroughly? Appreciated this article. I knew I was sexually molested by others outside of family, but I have reason to believe I am also an incest survivor. My heart goes out to these girls and boys and adults that carry this shame, even before we really get an idea of why we have always felt this way.
hello Jan! My name is Mickey and i enjoyed reading this. i too am a incest/child sexual abuse survivor. i for 30 years have hid this in my personal closet. it wasn’t until January of this year that i decided to start seeking help. it isn’t easy. id like some help, some friends, some supporters. it isn’t everyday that you find someone to talk to about incest. if anyone wants to have comforting talks please email me. i need all the friends i can get that can understand. blckbutee@yahoo.com
I need some comments on what I should do about the situation
Hi Maria,
I just found out about 5 weeks ago that my sister-in-law is a victim of incest. Things have been going on for years that I finally caught onto that my wife and brother-in-law were totally unaware of, and I only put together the truth by seeing something ambiguous and having one of those moments of clarity and connected many, many dots.
My sister-in-law is in her very early 20s. My wife and I spoke to her about the behavior but she denied it, understandably but not convincingly, and I’m sensing the behavior is intesifying regardless in the wake of an otherwise unrealted death in the family. I can tell my Sister-In-Law hates herself but the father’s manipulations play on her sympathies and thier false ‘connection’, and I don’t feel she will stop this any time soon. She still lives at home and the mother willingly left the work force many years ago (she’s able to work, she just has not). The mother has been trying to keep this a secret for some time now and is without doubt consciously aware of a good deal.
I’m concerned for my wife. She suffers from bipolar disorder and admits to not having a good memory of her childhood (although she insists they are not ‘gaps in memory’, and I believe that). She has told me of a handful of troubling things — one being a dream 5 years ago she had of her father doing sexual things to her that she thought was so real she almost asked him the next day if it was. But when we went to her psychiatrist, we were told that the 2-3 things she’d experienced didn’t, in her opinion, make her think my wife was abused. She suggested my wife was maybe “skipped”, since this sometimes happens.
While I feel my wife did not recieve the same level of incestuous abuse that my sister-in-law is suffering, I remain skeptical that nothing ever happened, although I know I’m doubting a medical professional. My wife does not exhibit nearly as many ‘signs’ of incest as my sister-in-law, but certain indirect ones are there such as not trusting her own instincts, irrational fears, etc. which I had previously felt was just a result of naturally occurring bipolar disorder (although nobody else in her family directly has been diagnosed with this illness). And now after the conversation with her psychiatrist, my wife is more skeptical that anything that serious is going on in her family after all, and it causes friction between us because I remain certain that this is happening and the very fact she seems easily swayed back and forth only strengthens my fears. We’ll be finding specialized therapy soon, so hopefully that will pan out well.
I feel horrible: my sister-in-law flirted with me a fair bit in the past (no touching or anything like that, thankfully) and now I feel that I aided and abetted what was going on. I feel like I’m hoping this terrible abuse happened to my wife just so that we can unite as many people as we can against her own father and stop the co-dependant behavior of her family, that now I’m pushing too hard to rescue everyone from him.
Thanks for listening.
Dear anonymous,
Thank you for writing and I apologize that I haven’t responded sooner.
I do think that your wife was very likely incested and that you are putting the pieces of the puzzle together thoughtfully and with much care and love. I hope that you find a therapist that is knowledgeable in this field and able to help lead you and your wife through this confusing and painful journey.
Finding the truth is even more important because her father is still alive and capable of inflicting even more damage. Your courage is very literally saving the lives of your loved ones.
Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Hi Lady in black (sorry, I said Maria last time),
As an update, things have progressed slowly. At the moment things feel… better than they were the first time I wrote. It’s been about 3 months now since I first figured out what was going on.
My wife has been able to see her original adolescent psychiatrist (who only stopped seeing her just last year since she kept her on longer than usual), who seemed much more open to the notion that something may have happened to my wife. This seemed to set my wife in the opposite direction from where she had been going. Although I’m happier for that, I do get a bit insecure: I feel like my wife can change her attitudes based largely on a few comments from people that aren’t me. I may underestimate the effect I have on her because I see her at such a close distance, but it often feels to me certain other people can convince her easier than me. Her mother has been such a person in the past (although before I found out about all this, I was fine with that), but since the visit to the psychiatrist, that effect appears to at least taken a fair hit.
We have a therapist now, although my wife has recently adopted the opinion that she does not need therapy any longer, and has been complaining that it costs money and hinting that she’s feeling better. I suspect that she might be scared of what she’ll encounter through therapy, but I’ve persuaded her to keep going for now.
My wife’s a fighter. That’s good in some ways, not so good in others. 🙂
We’ve been trying now for the past couple months to engage my sister-in-law through just hanging out with her. This appears to have at least some effect, but I can’t quite tell what that means in the long term. The bad news is the incest looks to be ongoing. The good news is — although I don’t know how good it may be — that the father seems to be going through periods of frustration. We seem to be in these mini-cycles where we do something that seems to knock his authority (like inviting her over when we suspect he will want her at home — which although she refuses it seems to cooincide with the father’s frustrations), but then he is capable of re-asserting it.
I don’t know if I can use that as a barometer to figure out how strong the conditioning is. Clearly, the situation isn’t hopeless. But it’s tough since we each go through days of hope and days of discouragement. Some days she seems like she’s fighting some deeper emotions in regards to us, others she gets snarky and passive-aggressive. My sister-in-law had been talking just last week of leaving for six years to go study medicine in Italy… and while in a way I’m worried as hell on her leaving for so long without therapy, at least it might signify something about how much power her father actually has over his family.
My uncle is a parole officer, although he lives halfway across the country. I’ve been considering asking him if he can advise me on what my options are on the direct side of things. It’s occurred to me that while this route does seem the best bet, we may still want to keep other options on the table if this goes south.
Thanks again for listening.
I just posted something about what I am going through can you please tell me what steps I need to take
my 14 yr old dtr seems highly provacative and sexual. she has no self esteem. medicated for OCD since age 11 at which time she was hospitalized. Intellectually gifted. trouble making girlfriends. good student. perfectionist. masturbated at age 1 in a diaper. I never felt comfortable with leaving her alone with dad or letting dad console her in her bedroom. She is angry.
We are divorced now (he left me for younger woman). He had a neglectful sexual drug dependent childhood. He was recently diagnosed with obsessive personality disorder.
Could she be a victim of incest? I think so but am helpless.
She is in counseling.
Dear Donna,
It sounds very much like your daughter has been or is still a victim of incest. So much of what you have described points to her dad as the perpetrator, but it is certainly possible that it is someone else. I am so glad she is in counseling and I hope that it helps bring out the truth.
Your instincts are good…please continue to trust them. If there is anything at all I can do to help, please let me know. You are in no sense helpless….you are gaining knowledge and standing up for your daughter…that is strength and courage!
Now this one is little tricky but in think people on this forum can help. I got married and we rented a separate room in the city to spend few days in honeymoon. During those days my wife’s brother comes to see us, and we smoked a joint (marijuana) together. What I knew of relationship between my wife and her brother was they both were attached, joked about everything explicitly, shared gestures of pussy licking ( putting two fingers in V on lips and crawl the tongue outward) and penis sucking gesture (pushing tongue sighing mouth and popping out the cheek) .all these gestures in funny manner showing as if they are joking or mimicking something seen on tv. She also told me he is her baby brother and she would not mind asking her brother questions related men turn ons and so. Now when we smoked weed, after few talks and fun, I and wife were cuddling in bed and her brother in a very neutral manner also joined jumped into bed. Now the position is such that I am lying straight and not looking and my wife and her brother coz I was pissed on her brother for jumping inside bed while at the same time fighting to keep away any negative thoughts.. It felt like as her brother is teasing her which makes her giggle and she would quickly hug me while keeping engaged with her brother who is in bed with us…anyway in felt awkward and created situation and made my wife and her bro leave the room. Other day she comes and says, mybbrother was like I’m not sure if your husband would understand our relationship…
Now we moved to other country and I can hear my wife talking to her brother in secret language over Skype. I once also saw her infront of me in a very tactful manner lifting her long shirt to clean her nose while doing video chat with her brother and she wasn’t wearing anything underneath.
Next, her brother came to bordering country with his gf ( gf from five years but they never had sex, coz of some stupid reason) my wife said we should go and see them. We decided a common place, booked a hotel and shared room ( two beds for four people in same room). We were drinking and her brother poured me a lot of alcohol that I passed out and when I woke up I found my wife and everyone in room still up.. Can not tell what happened..
Now does this mean incest between my wife and her bro? How can I surely find out more accurately??
I’m experiencing something similar but I still can’t identify. She recently told me that her brother was molested by his older brother. Things are making feel uncomfortable.
“Living with Memories” elizbeck.blogspot.com
another resoucrce for survivors
Many years ago my best friend confided in me that her grandfather molested her from infancy to the age of 16. I have not seen or heard from her in over 15 years. I’ve been trying to find her by doing searches on the web when I ran into your story. At first I thought you were Linda, my friend, because your stories are so similar.
Anyway, I read through each entry of your blog and it stops in 2011. And although I do not know you I became concerned that you have not made an entry for more than one year.
Are you okay? Did you make a big breakthrough and you no longer have the need to write? I hope so. It is heartbreaking to read about the effects of child abuse, especially when I don’t know how to help.
Hi Jaye,
Thank you for your concern. I haven’t written anything for a few years, but I finally came back to the site and was astonished to see how many people had viewed it. I wrote a new entry this week.
I had stopped because I wanted to put these memories behind me and also I was sharing them with my mom and she got so upset that she didn’t know about it that I stopped for her sake. It was upsetting her too deeply.
I am going to write more now about what has happened in my aduly years.
I hope what I write helps. Thank you so much.
LadyinBlack
I just posted something on this site can you please tell me what I need to do about my situation
Hi, I have had a suspicious feeling about my wife’s family for quite some time now. My wife has 3 sisters (1 older & 2 younger). When I met her some 10 years ago, her family seemed like a very tight knitted family, with possibly an overprotective mother who always made it look like it was my wife’s fault for marrying me and later moving out. All her 3 sisters went back to their home after graduating college, and non got married even till now.
But that didn’t seemed too odd to me until her mother passed away 3 years ago. It was then that things got weird. Her sisters would sleep with their father (eventhough they are well over 20 years old with the eldest at 33 this year and youngest at 25 now). My wife told me that this happened almost everynight because they said their father could not sleep alone… I was like “what is this”????. I love my wife, but I have to admit that our sex life has never been great cause she seem “afraid” of physical intimacy.
The last time we visited them, the sisters were even casually talking about sleeping on their fathers NEW BED that night, which I found quite “unacceptable” but kept quiet as not to show disrespect. My wife even took her father on a trip with both of them sharing a room (which didn’t seemed too odd that time but is getting on my nerves now as I slowly try to dissect what is happening).
I know some people will tell me that this is just father-daughter love. But I have a sister too, and at no point would I ever see it fit for her to sleep with my father alone in a room. I have a close family too~!!! Neither do I see myself sleeping with my mum alone for no good reason (unless she is sick and I need to take care of her)
The worst part is, I recently came to Hong Kong to further my studies and my wife had to wait a year before she could join me. During that time, she had an affair with a man 10 years older than her. When the affair was discovered, her dad protected and wanted her to go back to stay in his house (with all her sisters & him).
The affair tore me up. but what I am truly worried about is this unhealthy Father-Daughter thing they have going. Am I paranoid? Is it natural for father-daughters to sleep together often? Is the father just over-caring or over-protective. My wife suffers from depression, sexual frigidity, and now an affair with an older man (fatherly figure maybe????). And the father immediately sees it as a chance to get her back in the house.
Anyway, I really tried to save our marriage, partly because I really love her and now, partly because I’m afraid of what would happen to her if she moves back.
Is this a sign of incest? None of her sisters who stayed back ever had any successful relationships with men. Her elder sister is terribly hot tempered. My wife’s taking meds for depression and would not want to discuss this issue with me. I tried talking to my wife’s cousin, but I doubt he believes in what I say. My wife and I are still together.
Can anyone help?
Trust your gut.
It’s very simple:
Adult children (male or female) DO NOT SLEEP IN THEIR PARENTS’ BEDS.
May be he is over reading between the lines.
1- Do they really sleep with Dad in same bed??? are you sure????
2- The easy thing to spy is put an IP camera in dad’s bed room to see what goes on in there.
3- Go to stay in their house for a night and see where they sleep.
4- Ask direct question without shame, guys i keep hearing that you would sleep at dad’s place. do you guys mean sleeping in same bed as dad? if they say yes then just sound funny, you guys really love dad i would never sleep in dad’d bed to make him sleep.
5- First be sure then take step.
Trust me I was wrong about same kinda impression but i learned my lesson. so you should be careful too
Dear Tico & Aloo…
1.There is only one bed in the room. No mattresses or anything else to sleep on, even on the floor. I checked and checked again…
2. And her younger sister (27 years old) clearly said they wanted to SLEEP ON their fathers “NEW BED” when I was there…
3. I am definite it’s the same bed. Some may say that the dad is just trating them like his kids, but my point is – “Over 20 and sleeping frequently with your dad???” Come on, you guys are not kids~!!!!
I can’t put a camera in the bedroom. With my relationship between her family strained, and my recent questioning about their incestious behavior, and her affair… I doubt I can even get near their house.
That’s why I have been researching the possible signs of such abnormal Father-Daughter relationship.
I could just divorce my wife cause of her affair, but I don’t want her to go back into such a sinful life… I feel it is too wrong…
Listen man, our suspicions are based on our judgements that we build through experiences in life. Maybe your experiences in life are making you interpret this situation negatively.. Have you thought of this??
How is it possible that a retired man would have only 1 room and 1 bed in the house??
What would a 27yr old get from doing it with old dad?? When she can be pretty about her age and hookup any good man. Sleeping in dad’s new bed does not mean incest..
When we are negative about one thing we look at all other things negatively. Divorcing your wife for an affair is your own business but if she is regretting what she did then you should talk to her about all your insecurities in humble manner – she would clear it up.
Be positive man.. And also introspect, look inside your own coller why are you interpretting this situation as incest? Is there anything in your past??
Aloo,
Thanks for the insight. But That IS THE PROBLEM. They have 4 bedrooms in the house, so why “SLEEP WITH DAD”? It’s not a one time thing, it’s like a casual thing with them…
Again, why would a 27 year old sleep with dad if she can go get any good man she wants?? Why would all the 3 sisters do that?? Why aren’t any of them able to have a good relationship with any other man?
I have noticed this since BEFORE the affair thing with my wife. Come on, don’t you think I would notice that my wife had sexual problems after all these years of marriage? I loved her deeply and kept looking away, always looking for an excuse, always thinking maybe it was my fault or something.
It was because I kept thinking of the POSITIVE – “That it was all normal”, “that it was all just fatherly love”, “that I was over suspicious”… That led me to the crappy situation I have now.
I tried talking with my wife, she just kept silent about the incest.
I looked into my own life and family, and that was what made me more suspicious. I have a close family, just my mum, dad, sister and I, and neither one of us would be spending the night alone with mum or dad.
Tico is right in saying that the fact that they are acting normal is throwing me off. So my question is : “Is there ay possibility that they actually love their dad so much that they are willing to give in? To comfort him? Esp after they lost their mum?, And they feel that it is right and justified? “.
I’m really not sure here, are there cases like this? I don’t want to go pointing fingers at people, telling them they are incestuous. I just need to look deeper into this and not look away again – which may be why my marriage failed. I may not be able to safe this marriage, but at least I should try to safe the person I loved.
You have all the signs and information you need. Again, you have to trust your instincts, oftentimes our innards tell us what is true but we doubt it. Your wife’s behavior as you have described leans toward some kind of abuse and sexual seems appropriate here. Her sisters’ sleeping arrangement is suspect – the fact that they are all acting like it is normal is throwing you off and confusing you at the same time. IT IS NOT NORMAL – SOMETHING IS WRONG and I think you know what’s wrong.
Thanks Tico
SOMETHING IS WRONG. But I don’t wanna jump in just like that. If this incest thing is partly consensual, it will be hard for me to do anything. If it’s not incest, then it will look like I’m seeking revenge and making crazy allegations.
I do not want that. But again, sleeping with your dad when you have so many beds with so many rooms is just sick…
But I MUST look into my wife’s problem. I’m still her husband and I’d like to know what is going on.
Is this kinda thing ever consensual? Like having such a strong emotional bond with even your father that you try everything to console him?
Their mother was sick for a long time b4 her demise. So I guess, intimacy between their parents might have been rare, and something may have started long ago btwn father & daughters. And things got worst when there was a death in the family and they found that using the need for emotional support as an excuse to continue such a relationship “acceptable”.
Just my guess, I’m no psychologist. Hope for input here from people who know better…
Did your wife ever tell you or hint that she was abused in any way?
Tico
Not really, only told me she had a fear of sexual intimacy. I always thought it was because I was her first man, and she didn’t have any previous experience…
She’s also afraid of getting anything inserted into her private area, so much that even her Gynaecologist was unable to examine her nor perform a papsmear…
Then do you think she really had an affair if she is so afraid?
I’m trying to understand – I pick up clues from behavior
The affair is undeniable. I have absolute proof including admittance by her and the other guy.
Her unusual sexual behavior is throwing me off track. Maybe she has a thing for older guys. Maybe she has been brought up to think that she should show gratitude to these kinda people by giving in to them. I don’t know…
Plus the weird way they act around their dad, Is it a sign of incest/abuse/history of rape or just a lack of morale in their upbringing. I don’t understand.
Well the affair is done. I am a Christian, and the bible says it is justified for me to divorce her. But I truly wanna find out the truth and still help her if I can. Too bad she won’t talk about it…
You’re doing a good thing trying to get her help. I may have done the same.
Can you give an example of how they behave around their father?
Sorry for being away awhile.
Well, they act quite normal. Like a close knitted family, that’s all. That’s why I was never bothered until I started hearing them say they are sleeping in their fathers bed and so on… then I got weird for me.
That’s when I started suspecting something was wrong, and noticed that the father seems to wanna keep them all under his roof and not wanna let them go off. I thought it might be just an over protective parent, but somethings are just too extreme when your daughters are all around 30 years old.
Sorry, I meant to say IT GOT WEIRD…
There you go, you have solved this puzzle yourself. You do not have solid indications of incest and for sure you’re over thinking the whole thing. Have confidence in your relationship, make your wife feel that she can trust and share anything with you.
Dear Aloo,
I’m not getting back with her (but this is not a place to discuss that).
I just wanna make sure she is fine after I leave. So that she doesn’t throw her life away.
But if I can’t prove anything, and she does not wanna talk about it, I can’t really do anything.
Some people cannot be saved, Some just don’t want to.
Thanks for everything, really appreciate you guys…
Will still be following this blog, to see if there’s anything else I need to learn
i have 8 yr old daughter..dont know how long this has been going on but i caught my daughter fondling her dads genitals while he was wearing scrubs from work..they were watching tv in our bed…he seemed to not pay attention … she had her hand under her blanket when she did it…i got about 8 videos in 2 months time and i see her using her foot on him or even in one video my vibrator on herself!! videos are grainey but obvious to me …CPS said child didnt make a cry out so it wasnt a case..they didnt even look at what i had…i left and filed for divorce and have temporary cust. till the end of divorce…im so mad because i cant prove it…i think my 8 yr thinks dad is her boyfriend and will never tell on him..im devastated because he has got her soooo brainwashed..cant get her help if she wont admit its wrong..she likes the attention..i wish you could give me answers…thsnks…lynda williams
Go directly to the police with the video – they have ways of clearing up the graininess. And if you can afford it get a lawyer as well.
I hope you get him jailed for a long time.
Lynda,
Why do you have to be so depressed on something like this? Do you think you are the only parent and her dad is not the one who would thing of his kid’s well being?
Kids are curious and they wanna know everything around them. If a parent (father) decides to ignore kid’s such behavious there are chances that kid would stop getting curious about genitals. Please respect the institution of parenthood and not get divorce for problems that you don’t undersatnd.
Instead of sitting with your husband in understanding your baby daughter’s behaviour and devising a proper plan, you started suspecting the man? how amateur is that.
May be you were pissed at your husband for some other reasons and you took it out in such manner. silly you
Huh???
Something is very very wrong with you, aloo.
FRom all your responses to bizarre and obvious abuse you must be an abuser too or severely mentally retarded
I hope those who are seeking advice and solace are wise enough to see through your evil and ignore the nonsense you write
well let me apologize if I have said something incorrect or immoral, that was not my intention. However I would love to know from Tico why would he go so hard on me in saying such a bizarre thing? the reason I write on this forum is because I was severely (very severely) abused as a child and I some how am a close survivor of this abuse. However, I will re-state what I mentioned and I would request my audience to be neutral in reading this:
Imagine,
well let me apologize if I have said something incorrect or immoral, that was not my intention. However I would love to know from Tico why would he go so hard on me in saying such a bizarre thing? the reason I write on this forum is because I was severely (very severely) abused as a child and I some how am a close survivor of this abuse. However, I will re-state what I mentioned and I would request my audience to be neutral in reading this:
Imagine, whats the curiosity level of a child 8yr old?
Ans: very very high
Now imagine: A kid out of curiosity using mom’s vibrator?
Ans: My sister had nany, who told her that she has another house where she is nanny of a 7yr old baby girl and there are times when that kid is lying naked in her room and exploring her self. When that Nanny tried to stop the kid, the mom said please do not stop her again as it’s a very basic process of child curiosity and this is how they explore. This is what I based my argument upon. There is no harm if kids are exploring
Now lets imagine: A dad laying on bed with no reaction when his kid is going around hitting/touching/slapping his genitals:
Ans: Thee are several ways the dad could have responded.
1- In putting hands over his genitals and asking the kid no. or may be thrashing the kid. This would have made the kid more curious.
2- He ignored the kid, and she thought it’s normal human biology / anatomy so lets not be so much curious about it.
Freinds, parents love thier babies because kids are the best gift of nature. We can not simply blame a dad of incest based on such incident. There is a possibility that the person complaining about it had a bent perspective to think negatively.
All I am asking the complainant is that she should have asked her husband for explaination and made more effort in finding the root cause.
Thanks
@Aloo – there is a reason you were molested and I was not and your writings give us a hint why.
You need to go back to counseling or if you are still in counseling you need to explore deeper before giving advice to others who may accept your warped ideas and hurt themselves and others more.
In other words you are not qualified to counsel anyone about abuse because you are still suffering from its effects and your thinking is NOT right. It is actually dangerous. Being a victim or survivor does not also give you knowledge or authority.
For example: Normal parents know that ALL curiosity should NOT be appeased. If a child is curious about what a blown off head looks like, would you allow the child to blow his father’s head off?
Maybe someone was curios about abusing you and carried it out and look where it got you. The person who abused you should have stopped or should have been stopped.
And that young girl’s father should have stopped too. He did it in secret, hiding from the mother – why? Because he knows it was wrong.
I’ve read a lot of your ‘advice’ and I will say again – no one should read it or take it seriously, No one – you should not even be on this forum giving advice at all.
I agree with your point. I should have also mentioned a situation where a parent is deliberately letting it go on and getting amused out of it – that is abuse for sure.
I was being too positive I guess but didnt mean to direct anyone in wrong direction.
Lynda W.
Hi,
There certainly seems to be incest occurring her. You have plenty pf evidence even though the officials would not pay attention.
Now that she’s away from her dad, hopefully this behavior by both of them will stop. You could try counseling or getting a restraining order, but if she enjoys what’s going on those would probably inflame the situation.
Has her behavior or feelings about this changed since you wrote?
Lady in black
Dear tico…i wud like to share my story wid u n hoping for your reply…
I got married 4 years back and after shifting to my wife native place I started having dis gut feeling dat sumthng is wrong wid my wife’s family..let d gud Lord forgive me,if its only my suspicion…although our sex life was gud for the whole week,i’ve noticed something strange in our sex life during saturday and dat was the day where she always went to meet her parents..and every saturday when she came home,she would always give excuses like’i’m too tired for sex’…one day that raises my eye brows was when I was out of town for some work,and wen I called her she told me she was at her parents house with only her father at home..and the way she replied through the phone also with shaky voice…..i also remember she once told me of getting a chance to watch porn with the porn cd of her father scattrd in d living room wen she was only in high school..i still remember also of how she always compare me with her father masculine character and also at the same time criticising me..her father also (my father in law) he’s a porn addict…always try to touch little boys genital in d form of making fun out of them…also d weirdst is that she always go to her parents house at d exact time everyweek when my mother in law is not at home including her brothers and sisters…i would also like to tel you dat when ever she’s angry she would break the cups into pieces ane also threatening me with suicide in which she later explain dat she was only testing me!! Is there any chance of a father daughter incest here..bcoz I really love her and would like to help her if its really there.. ..
Dear Anonymous
I had such a hard time reading your blog……. Omg, why can’t you type out the full word? Dat, bcoz, d…… Don’t you have spell check!? Not to be disrespectful, but I had to re read it 3 times to understand what the hell you were trying to say.
(Weirdst???!) really?
First, I apologize for the delay in replying, I do not log on this email id often.
I’m so sorry, I cannot give you an assessment because from your description I don’t have enough information to do so. It’s possible that her behavior is just a normal reaction to a dysfunctional family.
Tell me, how is the father’s behavior with you?
I’m currently reading “Secret Survivors” by S.Blume. I have so many questions, like why now in my early 50s do I now know and understand what happened in my childhood, even small flashbacks, other than that blocked memory (and I would not have thought that was possible, until I experienced it for myself). I have most of the incest survivor symptoms on your list. But I would like to ask you about a certain one “religous zealousness”. How do you know about this [possible] symptom? happened to me and my eldest sister, different faiths. It would be great to hear from you, it’s all been a bit of a shock really, but I’ve been on a quest to discover the truth – so many keys I’ve used to so many different ‘doors’ to unlock the tragedy of my past – and now I’ve found the right one, it all fits together so neatly. Incest, the family’s best-kept secret – and I understand all their behaviour now too that was a mystery to me for the longest time.
Hi Donny,
I first was religiously zealous when I was 8 years old. I was brought up Protestant, but wanted to be a nun. I practiced the Catholic faith in my bedroom. I had gotten books from the library. I believe I was so devoted to God because I could go to him with my incest problems and fears and was afraid to go to my parents.
Later in life, I still felt called to be a nun so I ended my marriage and went into a monastery. It was there that part of my repressed memories started surfacing and some flashbacks. I wasn’t there very long because these incidents made it impossible to be a practicing nun.
Since then I have had some extreme depressions and am presently under a doctors care for P.T.S.D., ADD, depression and anxiety.
Thanks for your letter,
Lady in Black
Theres a sunnier side to this taboo that needs to be acknowledged. Sibling incest that happened after serious thought and mutual decision making
Mutual consent to incest is still incest and still forbidden in our society
Sike
I have the majority of these symptoms but never had sex with family. Me and my sister kind of played around when we were a lot younger but that was the extent of it. I am actually kind of into the idea so I am not sure if that means i was ever incested upon or not but a part of me wants to try it but not until shes 18. I know its bad and that i shouldn’t but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to and if I have a daughter does that mean she will have the same thinking I do?
Ted Johnson? Or Ted Bundy? Sick bastard. Karma is waiting for you….
Hi Peep, I’ve been suspecting my wife and the younger brothers and have accused her on this but she looked so hurt that i ever imagined such. She’s always anxious to visit her family home and most times when any of her brothers (both half brothers. Same father but different mum) she tends to forget about me. I saw certain liquids in her private that looks like semen but she denied it telling me that had to do with some discharge from her system. Their was a night that she queefed while in my room. This happened when I returned late from work and met her with her brother inside her room and i took her to my room. I’m really confused and need a proof to this. Is there any secret camera that can record for 12-15 hour or may be with motion detector that you can suggest or any way you think i can catch them? Kindly advice as the brother will be going back to college this October.
Regards.
Did you see her and the brother in a compromising position? Or, were they sitting apart from each other in her room?
A babysitter told me that the little girl under her care (10 years old) told her that her father pulled her into bed and would not let her get up. That he was hugging and kissing her and that she could see his private parts and that they were all hairy! She said she did not like it. The babysitter turned around and told the father. He denied it, of course and told the nanny that it was all innocent and that the mother had come home late from work and that the little girl wanted to go in and disturb her and in order to keep her from doing that he did not let her get up from the bed and was just kissing and hugging her to keep her occupied.
The little girl eats very little. Does not want to eat at home, she talks very inappropriately about sex and sexual behavior, has separation anxiety and is being heavily medicated. According to the parents she has attention defeceit. Sometimes the girl seems like a zombie, almost vacant.
What does this sound like to you and how can I help? In the text above I have used babysitter and nanny interchangeably. It is the same person.
Always remeber the victim is the victim regardless of the preditor and that child deserves one adult to protect them – do not ever doubt the child -we will always tell the truth (ALWAYS)….. Not the preditor
Tell us more. Nothing seem sinister about her papa trying to keep her from disturbing mom.
What does she say about sex? Is she picking it up from TV?
Is she taking meds for ADD, it may make her seem like a zombie.
is there a definitive way to figure out if you’re an incest victim? there is so much contradictory info therapy wise. always felt i had memory gaps as a kid way before i would have had any idea what that could mean. but have no memories about it. just a fleeting ‘feeling’… afraid hypnotherapy could create false memories. any suggestions?
You know in your gut first, then the memories start – allow time and counselling to ease them in – dont force it and trust that your brain will know what and how.much to deliver to you, seek out us lucky ones to reassure yourself -its ok to find your voice as we others have done this.too……try not to be scared and there is light at the end of the tunnel. If we survivors find our voices more and more of us to come can heal quicker xox
So, once again you,ve all forced the issue for me to get your attentions.. so to the factor for why and how you would conform to the specs to problemate your identities from incest to something psychological in nature to describe the behaviorial patterns to ass yums for what incest you would declare to behave…where are the evidential factors for genetic decay than your beastialities that promisculate the physical deformities than provocatize the ellipsed structure to the cellulite to your conditions to behave humiliated despite from make up cover? Or else what would you describe the incest equal to in traits? Malignant eye sockets? That is done in the process in birthing from resexual contact either from insertions that reach the “womb” via brooms…ie…..usa…it is unjust but they are not allowed to survive to promotte the reputation for the USA; however, I God will substantiably allow every european womb debiled with broomsticks or pipes to disolute the forming body and promote the unbalanced nature.
If knowledge about incest and the facts were evident and correct, I God would not be obliged to set examples for the demonstrative results on the ignorant peoples ie the USA Europea to “aeropea” again the coliteral coiterous junction between wet and sets.
What is one way you can be certain that someone is committing incest? I am suspicious of my friend and his younger sister. Some of thee symptoms apply to the sister.
I was a victim of incest before . I experienced all the symptoms that were given above. My mom caught my dad touching my private part while i was sleeping.she even confronted me what was happening. Because of fear i was not able to tell her what my father was doing with me since i was 5 yrs old. The worst part despite of the incident my mom decided to work abroad.leaving me unguard. I really wanted to die during those years. I kept begging to my mom togo home but she doesnt want. Until i decided to run away from home to asked help from my cousin. We filed rape case against my father. I thought it would end there.but when my mom went home the brother of my dad talked to her to ceased the case. I was disappointed when she left me with my uncles care. He was good on me but the psychological trauma i got from my grandma was unforgivable. After i graduated from college my mom past away i went back to our house where my dad leave.together with my brother.when my bro went abroad i was left again with my dad. Since i was working that time i decided to runaway with my bf. And never comeback. Until now i am 32 yrs old my dream kept haunting me. He kept on running after me and i even killed him on my dreams. I already forgive him, and let the Lord punish him in Gods time. But what im worried i have a stepsisters 7 and 9 and i can see the signs on them. My step mom and i were not in good terms. Me and my brother wanted to save them but i dont have evidence yet. Its just the incident i heard them in the room doing something. Watching porno 3 yrs ago.
I am going through a horrible time, I was trying to find out what the signs of rape by a dad are when I read your list, whoa, now I don’t know WHAT to think. I developed Multiplicty early in life and just had someone in treatment tell me through finger talking that my dad raped me, I was trying to figure out if I went through FMS or if that counselor was right, he claims through finger talking my alters revealed that I was raped. My current therapist tried EMDR but said its too difficult to know for sure if I was raped, yet from your list, of signs that one has been raped, I still fit these signs and as a kid I definetly fit the signs, I don’t know WHAT to think
MKM
Hi,
It sounds as if you have been abused. Now that it’s over you should get your feeling out by talking to a therapist. You need to have help to sort out the truth and decide how to help you go on with the rest of your life/
Thanks for your letter,
Lady in Black
I am concerned that this is going on with my husband and his adult daughter who is 24. Can you please help me?
If your partner is engaged with an adult child innapropriately your only response ought to be is to leave him. Wether it’s over emeshment or actual incest, the chap is proving he’s not into reliable adult relationships. A 24yo doesn’t need your involvement.I hope you ran from this partner
So much pain. It’s excellent that survivors continue to find your blog and learn what is part of the abuse in order to stop punishing themselves.
There is a site RAINN, rape, assault, incest network that has a crisis telephone line.
I have many years of recovery, but every year brings new memories and understanding.
I finally felt free when my parents died, but my sister is now exhibiting the behavior of the one who is ignored.
She chose my parents when I estranged myself from them, so I haven’t seen her for 20+years.
Now she’s gathering cousins, aunts and uncles to her cause. It was my fault apparently that my father didn’t love her.
He didn’t bother her, that she remembers. Unfortunately, her sign of remembered abuse was her obesity. So, I was dating,promiscuity was my sign, and she wasn’t. The story is too long. In any case, my father only loved his penis and stuck it anywhere he could get away with.
So, a warning, sometimes as you heal those around you get crazier.
I’ll be telling more stories on my site,(which is not ready yet), REFLECTIONS OF LOVE AND LOATHING. I would advise whatever treatment, (groups with TWO counselors worked best for me), my site will be for those on the road, or who need to find a road, to a normal life.
I looked back to some previous comments, anonymous in 2013 in particular and I believe he is using your site for his degenerate thrills. I used to read the Readers column in Penthouse when I believed they were real. This sounds a lot like them and some creeps who used the suicide crisis line I volunteered for the same way. I wish I knew a way to weed them out.
Maryg
Hi! My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, we’ve been together for a year and a half now. I love him to death, however, some of the things he does involving his sister concerns me. She is 4 years old about to turn 5 and he just turned 16. I understand as an older sibling that you would want nothing but the best for your younger sibling and that you would want to look after them and protect them, but their relationship just seems a bit different than most of a brother and sister. He plays with her sometimes in a way as if he would play with me. An example of this is “Give me a kiss give me a kiss” or “I love you I love you I love you. I love you sooooo much.” And she’ll say “how much?” And they used to do that often. Although, recently, she’s been kind of stand offish from him and is reluctant or just absolutely refuses to give her a kiss. When he almost forces one on her she’ll get upset and starts crying until he stops. Another thing that seems unusual to me is that he seems a little obsessed with her. He used to speak of how cute he thought her bottom was and how beautiful and perfect he thinks she is. He finds everything she does cute and he keeps little secrets with her. At first I thought this was just a cute thing he does with her considering that she is is only sister, and the baby of their family. However, as times passed by I just keep getting a gut feeling that this is NOT normal. It’s also the way he looks at her that concerns me. There was also a time just a month or two ago that him and his older brother got into an argument and his brother made the remark “You pedophile!” Right in front of me! My boyfriend had nothing to say but when I asked him about it he said he didn’t know why his brother said that and he just laughed. He also gets very offended if you say anything negative about his little sister that’s just concerning. He thinks she’s just perfect and no one is perfect. I would just like some feed back because I don’t have anyone to talk to and I don’t think I could ever address him with my feelings towards this because I think it could ruin our relationship. Is there incest going on?
Gives him a kiss* she is his only sister*
I recently started living with my boyfriend and his family due to certain situations. I’m noticing inappropriate behaviours between my boyfriend(19) and his (7) yr old sister. I know I was really reluctant to sayy anything. One day I walk passed her mother bedroom to go to the bathroom ; and I caught the little sister masturbating. As soon as she saw me she beg me not to tell her brother. I didnt think much of it at first but why not mom,dad, or grandma. My boyfriend and sister are the closet because his father left. His mother worked all the time so he didn’t graduate hs because so many absents watching his sister. Here are the signs I ve notice:
Undressing infront of her brother till her panties
She gets jealous if she see us kiss or even hug
Sometimes she wants to join in on the hug
If I lay my head on his chest watching a movie she does it
If i put my hand on his lap she’ll move it
She bends over infront of him on his privates in moves and does it repeated when i see it or come in room she sits down
She cries all the time and have tantrum
All her dolls are always in sexual positions in the tub when she gets out such as dolls giving each other oral and touching each other private parts
I would hate to accuse him of such things especially by subtle lil hints but I have a strong feeling maybe he use to and dont anymore. He is of great t size so i really doubt its intercourse. He recently admitted to me when he was her age two of his cousins girls separately gave him oral and was on top of him(sex) they did this till he was ten. He said. He didn’t think of it was wrong till he got older in realize they were family. They are like 25 he said now.
Hello i am 1years old & i have a boyfriend who is 20 (also the father of my two month old child). I have ALOT of questions. When he & i first started dating he never introduced me to his mother. . . It didnt matter to me, but when he finally did, it was down hill from there. She hated me & i could it. But its not that. My boyfriend told me that his mother NEVER liked any of his girlfriends. Which i can understand why, thats her second to the last child. Until this one incident on a social web page called instagram. He had posted a picture of him & his mom holding hands like if they were boyfriend & girlfriend. We fought about it & i let it go. Second his mom ended up getting a boyfriend & he told me that she wasn’t allowed to have a boyfriend, & he told me that he has never ever liked any of her boyfriends. Which i did question. A situation had happened between he & i, to where he gave me something bad, so he immediately called his mom & she took him to get tested. Then he called me telling me that he was sorry & i had told him that we weren’t together, & his mom yelled out (excuse my language) but she yelled “fuck her dont be with her anymore, tell her that you got it before you were with her, just break up with her.!” I questioned if they had went to get checked together because maybe one of them got it from the other. . . But after that there was a recent incident where she texted him & told him “hey son i posted a sexy picture of myself on instagram please dont get mad.” She then tagged him in the post saying “son please dont get mad” the picture was of her wearing a football jersey with her nipples real pointy & her butt hanging out. There was a really big between us & now i dont know if im wrong for thinking that they have a sexual relationship or not. . . I dont know what to do.! Please help me & tell me if im wrong.
My so called fiance is into his niece and he thinks that I don’t know, or that I’m desperate enough to be with him either way. He told me of sexual relations between them when they were little. The are only a few years apart. But I sense that it is still happening. He’s too much like prince charming and even though he tries to appear like the perfect man, there is still a big wall between us. Sometimes I feel that he is just using me for something and I can’t put my finger on what it is. Until today on Christmas day when we went over to his sister’s house and I could feel the sexual tension between he and his niece. I have a feeling that his entire family is aware. This is the second time in a row that I have been involved with someone who participates in this lifestyle. So I know that what my gut is telling me is right. I don’t know how to go about it tonight, but I want this man out of my life.
@greenly, the best thing in these instances is to be transparent about your insecurity or suspicion in nicest way possible. Like, you could always approach your bf and say, ‘hun, you know I have been in an abusive relation before and I am some how getting this awkward negative feeling about the energy I feel when you niece is around. Is there something I should be aware of? And you can be completely honest with me with the trust that I am fine with whatever there may be as long as you tell me the truth”. Just try to make him be truthful to you and act cool. when you know whats true, then you can make a decision.
Omg that’s exactly what I going thru wow
I am with a woman right now that has a 13 year old son that I have seen grab her in the wrong way every time she goes to the bathroom he is in there with her along when I am not there he’s in the bed with her he tells her things so that she will get mad so I will leave something is wrong because she also has three other kids but her bond for her youngest son is to strong I feel
I feel that my boyfriend looks at his sisters sexually but doesnt want to say anything about it? And most times he shows all signs.
I recently saw a picture of me when young and on the floor, sleeping. I started to remember why I was there, on the floor. I also started noticing weird behavior by my g/f and her lazy babied son. Inappropriate behavior and then she get a huge tattoo of her sons name on her back. She didn’t make enough to pay her bills yet paid hundreds on that tattoo. Then she tells me her friend had sex w her son to help him, a single mom has to do what a single mom needs to. (hmm, a friend or you I thought) Maybe that’s why he acts so messed up and I feel I should walk away, change my locks and write her out. She was over protective and over compensating and this tall 6 foot teen didnt have to walk 4 houses down the block, 1/3 mile to school or even flush after himself. he didn’t have to wake up himself and I can go on and on. A concierge mom or helicopter mom is a gross understatement. I dont put it past her to give him sex too, why should he have to earn anything, learn responsibility, exert himself, or be respectful. No rights of passage, no discipline, just consume and disrespect. Then It all came back, my father abusing me, tricking me, hurting my anus. Not all the memories, not the full memory and pain came back, but that it happened, and that They had me hypnotized to forget it. etc. That’s not my real problem, it had been buried and desensitized for 40 to 45 years, but that my girlfriend would be so messed up in the head to believe her sons lies to her face or not care and also feel she must provide or want to have sex with him. I don’t have a tape or video or that kind of proof, but think I do have enough, a gut feeling and much dislike and abhor their “too friendly” of a relationship which sort of ties in and makes the incest way believeable given a few other cirumstances.
I feel I should let her go, not even friends, and also seek a professional. abuse and resultant ptsd can cause some anxiety, stress, aggravate asthma, blood pressure and be hard to come to terms with without an ear, at the least.
So, do I want PROOF, do I need proof given I cant stand that kid?
not really,
My father was a minister.In addition to all the shame and guilt,my father put tremendous emphasis on not ruining he and my Moms ‘ministry.’which referred to his preaching,and the beautiful music they sang and performed for others.We were brainwashed into believing that God himself would punish us if we told.He preached while I fought off a strong wish to die.It was all mixed together.The ‘ministry’,the shame.In addition,he did this while we were asleep.Causing my brother and myself to ‘not remember.’My father was not a drunk,or an a wife beater.Never violent.I wanted to die,lots if times.There us no ‘certain type’of guy that does this.It can happen to anyone,from any lifestyle.We don’t need to be shocked when we discover that the High School homecoming gueen (me) from the beautiful home,with the wonderful parent..us really being tortured in secret.
Assume you had the sense to stop dating this man.Doubt you want to be part of an unbalanced three-some!
This reply was meant for Katie below
I’m dating a man who has a 28 year old daughter. I have seen and heard somethings that make me uncomfortable and was wondering if you could help me out.
My second time to see the daughter was around Christmas time, she came in with her boyfriend from dallas , for a overnight stay with her dad. She was angry about something, she got in her dad’s face, began to tell him that she hated him for what he did to her when she was a little girl. Accused him of knowing what she was talking about. Said he was a sorry excuse for a father, and that she hated him! He looked shocked and was speechless, and asked her to calm down. She was extremely restless, balancing back and forth towards him in his face, screaming at him , i hate you!
She went hysterical and hitting him. He grabbed her by the arms telling her to calm down. She would push him away and tell him to get his hands off her , and then spit in his face!
I left the house that night, he said she was just having a episode of bipolar and was doing fine the next morning.
Another time the daughter came in she was dressed in what looked like a top you would sleep in that came to the pantie line with maybe thong panties ( couldn’t tell , but she would get in front of the mirror where her dad could see her and bend over. I saw the dad starring in the mirror, and turned to see what he was starring at. I asked the daughter if she knew that her butt was showing? She stood up and said, oh sorry. Dad said, Oh it’s not like I haven’t seen it before. I was the first one to hold the butt.
Another time she came in, I was in a hurry to get to the bank, and dad was going to get dressed and invite his daughter up stairs to talk to him while he was getting dressed, she said no, and he replied, it’s not like you have not seen me in my underwear before.
another time, she comes in all wounded up and ran up to her dad and started dry humping him.
He doesn’t try to discipline her or correct her behavior, like I think a father should.
I welcome all comments, please reply.
Assume you had the sense to stop dating this man.Doubt you want to be part of an unbalanced three-some
Our granddaughter K. Just turned 7. Since day 1 her father has fawned over her, she sits on his lap, he very often uses words like butt, tush, etc. he constantly says yes when mom has said no and makes mom look like the bad guy. 5 weeks ago K took her 6 yr old male cousin in the bathroom to proudly expose herself. K is enamoured w/dad & PopPop. She is mean & physical w/her 3 yr old sister, saying sis isn’t bug/good/old enough, etc. we’ve had an uneasy feeling for years. Are we off base?
I am 42 years old now but I am a survivor of incest. And I believe it as well happened to my sister. But I have some of these disorders, I’ve even had a few flashbacks of the incident.
What is the treatment of incest behavior in a child.
Father is incest behavior that means his children also incest behavior.ls that true.
Lucy am sure my mother in law was a victim of incest— she was afraid to enter a rooms, would disappear and a little girl stood she never stopped talking constant talk that made no sense had no theme. She was extremely afraid of death and dying and talked about all the time. she never once in 20 years spoke of her parents never I feel that both parents were equal incestuous abusing her
am a victim of incest, and i feel confused,should i tell my husband to be that am incest victim,please help me.
Please help???
My soon to be ex-wife I think is incest w/ her 22 yr old son.
We met 7 yrs ago, she admitted her father had incest w/ her but never details. She and I married 3 yrs ago after yrs of her loving me like no other yet week after vows she totally changed. WOuld never live w/ me yet took my home. After I made it clear do to thief/drugs her adult son was NOt to live in my home she lied to me for yrs allowing it as I was working international. She let it out her adult son showed her her his hemroids yet if I even get a cut on finger she gets squimish.
Now she and a fews times in last few yrs goes and stays w/ her father with her under age daughter. now she lives w/ him again w/ her under age daughter.
She has 2 other sisters and one a teacher used to have sex w/ underage students. same sister slept w/ her first husband. next sister she details how she suffers from bi-polar disorders to extreme.
Our sex life is either none (for months) or extreme. She would like certain things then later claim she didn’t like those acts.
Again, her eldest son she caters to all his needs as a husband. Fact is I have even noted such and she does not reply. Also there is a lot of history of domestic violence from him to her yet she never charges him. same son. Same son has physically struck her under age daughter.
She suffers massive depression and voices wanting to commit suicide many times, has cut herself and self proclaimed “cutter”. 2 yrs ago came to me and shared that she has a identity that she has since being a little girl. She calls her by name. This other identity tells her stuff like: “No man will stay with you” He [me] will leave you” “He [me] cheats on you”. She also shared that the other entity told her to go to bridge, call me on cell speaker phone and jump off.
This is only a small portion of what I have dealt with.
I have a girlfriend who is 25 and she has a brother that’s 30 I’m 38 I suspected foul play due to audio recordings on my phone I’m wondering are their signs to look for and if so what are they…
I have been with my boyfriend for 3years now and I think he is sleeping with his sister the sister doesn’t like me when me and her brother comes around she leaves as if she angry that were together something always seem to drop in my spirit about them I NEED HELP
I do not recall being sexually abused by my dad but my sister and I have major abandonment issues and codependency problems. My dad would sleep with me in bed sometimes in his boxers up until age 25. He would always specialize me in his comments and out me on a pedestal. I have had OCD issues since I was 5 yr old. I have been given diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder since I was 15 due to behaviors but I have multiple therapists feeling I really had PTSD. Since I got married I become very controlled and am dissociating frequently. My mother protected my father and they were both religious and controlling parents. Whenever I speak up about covert incest my mom becomes cold and detached and angry. She tries to buy me off with things. My family is all trying to convince me that this is imagined and due to my Bipolar Disorder but my sister suffers from similar issues. We struggle with trust and intimacy issues and have poor boundaries with others. I’m afraid to confront the abuse because I need to move on with my life. Can you give me advice in staying with my career when I cannot focus and am dissociating? Desperate for help
I think my 50yr old girlfriend is sleeping with her 17yr old son. What signs should I look for. Has a over welling need to know where he is at all times. Recently found out thay where in the bedroom alone and when thay knew that I had came home her son rushed out of the bedroom to the kitchen. Later she was laying in bed with out a top on and when I ask y she covered up and said she wasn’t tho I could see she wasn’t. This only happens before, during or after sex so of course I’m putting all of this together. Am I jumping to a unjustified conclusion.
I enjoyed fucking my cousin. My wife would get Smashed..put her in bed Naked…and let my Uncle Fuck her…Several times..Wake up to a Cunt full of CUM…
Hi. I’m not sure how to say this but my ex boyfriend. Has two kids a boy and a girl the boy is 9 and the girl is 13. He walks around naked in front of them. He doesn’t do it when I was around though. He lets them wacht Rated R movies. He will go in and wash them if they don’t clean there selves good enough. Let’s the 13 yr old give him massages with his shirt off. She rubs his lower belly. Let the boy suck on his arm. The 13 yr old has been reported to police for violating a younger family member. But she wasn’t procicuted. The dad is worried that she hasn’t even started her first period yet. Which I tell him it’s normal. Plz help
No need to put shame on anybody..people in Africa do wierd stuff like this, it’s how the Africans are, incest is very primitive. We all have been brainwashed by people, telling them what is right or wrong but to me this is a very primitive behavior.You have those who says gay is a mental illness and then saying that it is wrong, I mean who knows.To me being gay is wrong and I feel strongly that it is wrong and get mad but it is just how humans are made…
It’s no wonder why people are so hatred over Africans BECUASE of their behavior…
After reading these comments, it seems that incest (specifically incestuous abuse) is more common than we think! Van Goh commented on adult daughters sleeping in their father’s bed – even children should not sleep in their parents’ bed, unless they are sick and need constant tending, or afraid of a thunderstorm or something. And it’s better, in the latter circumstance, for the child to sleep on the floor, with a sleeping bag. I also think that children bathing/showering with their parents, once they are old enough to wash themselves, is inappropriate. I have gotten into discussions where some people think that a father showering with his sons is okay, even when the sons are adolescent! As a female, my mother never bathed or showered with me once I was no longer a toddler, so I find the suggestion ludicrous.
Father-son incest is probably the most under-reported form of incest, because there is so much shame and people tend to link it to homosexuality. Male victims in particular are so ashamed and afraid to come forward. The damage that is done by sexual abuse, whether by family member or not, is highly damaging but incest is particularly devastating because it is often between someone the child knows, loves and trusts.
This subject needs to be talked about more. If you were a victim of incest, it’s never too late to seek help. If you are suspicious that sexual abuse may be occurring, please report it to the proper authorities. Even if it turns out to be not the case, better safe than sorry.
I have a boyfriends for 2 years now and he has 3 children .1 boy and 2 girls. The girl is 14 years old,. Since we live in , he seldom go home with his family and they are not in good terms anymore prior to our relationship. One time in April 2015, i checked on my phones bf and he has a confrontation with his ex wife and daughter regarding her daughter’s rebellious behaviour, ive read that her daughter askin her father thru fb msgr, that is he a really a good father to her, is there a good father that touches her daughter? That’s the exact words ive read. But when i confronted him, he immediately replied to her daughter thru fb msgr again he said what are you talking about? Then the daughter replied “oh im sorry what i mean is you are getting my own money from my grandpa without my consent” that’s what is her excuse and she said that its already midnight and really feeling dizzy and dint know what is she saying. So at that time i tried to convinced my self that it was really the real thing that money is all about whats concerning her. Not the other way around. But this Sat. Feb 18, the daughter again did some unrully behaviour again, she didnt sleep in their house and consistently showing no respect at her mom and cursing her. So, my bf msg again thru fb confronting her daughter about the activities and accusing her of having sex to his bf as what her mom told so to my bf, then i was the one who took the phone and messaging the girl as my bf is driving . Then i read again for the 2nd time that the girl said ” you are the only one who is touching me papa”. It really got into my nerves and i decided to just keep quiet as if i didnt read the reply of the girl. And that day we have to meet his cousin in hotel and we have to attend to my best friend’s bday, so i dont want to spoil the day. But since then, i cant help myself not to think of it and im starting to act differently, and i want to check if the msg are still there, but when i checked this day, its deleted the part which the daughter said that you are the only one who is touching me. So i confronted him and he denied that he deleted but i insist that i really saw and read it, then he make excuses, that he maybe accidentally deleted it, as if his fone is malfunctioning. But i didnt buy his excuses.. and i asked him what about it that ive read it 2x, what is the excuse of her daughter now? He said that his conscience is clean and he did nothing to her daughter and her daughter is just crazy telling that. He even bargain me to bring his daughter here and he would slap her face in front of me and make her lips bleed because she doesn’t know what are the implications of her words..now, im very confused, is this real or is his daughter just a crazy girl.
There is something going on. Next time address it immediately, don’t wait for him to delete the message and make excuses.
Thank u for giving advice
Hi i am a 24 year old wife to a very brilliant and amazing husband.. We have been dating for 4 years now and going on towards our 5th year.. We just recently married a year ago and we just had our new baby around the same time.and it hasn’t been easy for me being with my husband because i have shown some of these signs mentioned in this article. I have been very open and honest to him about myself and that i am a victim of child molestation when i was about 5. My older cousin who was 11 at the time molested me and ever since then i have been confused and kept alot of things to myself afraid of rejection and judgment from others. With what happened a long time ago it as effected me socially and sometimes i had thought of commiting suicide in several occasions. But because i became a born-again believer in Christ later during my secondary educational period i overcame the tendency to hurt myself. But still i have anger issues and sometimes for no reasons i put that anger on my husband. I havent forgiven my abuser and it makes me not to trust anyone including my husband at times. Throughout my relationship with him i have had assumptions that he has been cheating on me with other friends of mine but i haven’t had any prove to the point that i gave up one time and had an affair with a friend of mine. I stopped when i noticed that i was beginning to have an emotional attachment to the man. I knew i betrayed my husband and i also betrayed myself. So i asked forgiveness and he did forgive me. But still i worry if he would take revenge and cheat on me literally because i did it first and admitted it. I dont know about that but im still working on myself and to hope for the better.
However other things come up as well in our relationship that i have noticed. His relationship with his younger sister is odd. She is very attractive and she is about 2 years younger than me.but i am surprised that she has not once had a boyfriend and when my husband and i go out together i don’t see why she has to come along. I get so annoyed all the time but of course i dont show it. He really treats her better than when he treats me. And i dont know why she wears provocative clothing (shirts that have its neck collar down to the point we can see her cleavage) and short tight pants and really show off her butt shape.. She is coming along with her brother and me not her friends or acquaintances.. I dont like it also when my husband walks behind us because i know he has the view of her ass to himself and i am in front so i cant catch him looking.. Its weird! They say they used to sleep together in the living room and i noticed one time when i visited their family house she was sleeping in the living room with her short pants and completely having her legs spread apart.. It shocked me because the living room faces the entry to my husbands room. He just walked and didnt mind a thing but it was a shock to me but i didnt say anything. I have caught him once staring at her boobs but also didn’t confront him about it. I was thinking maybe they did at one point had a sexual encounter when they were young but now they are trying to fight it off.
He trusted me and i know he loves me that is why he married me. I just dont understand why though he would do that to his own little sister and it is wrong and he knew things about me that are similiar to their situation. I have hinted to my husband about my assumption towards him and his sister and he just think i am crazy and stupid for assuming those. But the sister by my observation has presented signs similiar to mine. And i won’t think she is the mastermind. He is older and he knows better.
We are still working things out for one another since we already have a baby in our lives. And another thing i just found out recently from my father that my husband is related to my family through his father side. So which would make us cousins along the line. I love my husband and my baby. However i just hope that our issues with one another can be resolved sooner. And i think i need a therapist!
I’m talking to a girl that lives far away from me it’s a long distance relationship and we talk all the time and we sleep on the phone. I have suspicion that there is sexual activity between her and her brother. After she “falls asleep” at night I hear her door open and close I hear sounds of holding back moans and I have confronted her and accused her intensly but she makes up little lies to cover the evidence I have. I think that if was wrong she would leave me but she just gets a frustrated and we don’t talk for a few days. I need help figuring this out please someone give me some answers because she won’t!
I have had the experience of being in a relationship with someone who clearly has boundary issues with the siblings. I did not want to believe it at first but things began happening that were inexplicable. consequently it appears that he finds safety in this type of relationship because siblings cannot quit one another. this is the most awful I’ve ever felt in a relationship. I feel stupid and dirty.
I feel my brother and mom have something going on sexually I am not sure what to do. Im in shock. They spend hours together and whatcbrought my suspesion was that today morning I herd moaning coming from my moms room and my brother was inside. There always together most of the time and she is obsessed with calling him always on the phone. My mom and dad never sleep together and my brother always says he wants his name changed and doesnt have normal behavior. I am not sure what I am supposed to think. I feel quite disturbed to be honest. I somehow tried askiny my own mother why she’s always with my brother she started saying I am the crazy one and I need therapy. Can anyone explain? Am i overthinking?
I feel my brother and mom have something going on sexually I am not sure what to do. Im in shock. They spend hours together and whatcbrought my suspesion was that today morning I herd moaning coming from my moms room and my brother was inside. There always together most of the time and she is obsessed with calling him always on the phone. My mom and dad never sleep together and my brother always says he wants his name changed and doesnt have normal behavior. I am not sure what I am supposed to think. I feel quite disturbed to be honest. I somehow tried askiny my own mother why she’s always with my brother she started saying I am the crazy one and I need therapy. Can anyone explain? Am i overthinking?
Hi. I am Sally and I looking for answers. My stepdaughter sleep with us because her father and she wants . she is only 7. At the beginning I haven’t any trouble with that but now she is always masturbate herself at the bed or in the family room when she is distracted seeing something in her phone. And yesterday her father and I was in the bathroom he was washing his teeth and I was applying some medicine on my breast and the girl opened the door and I said to her ” close the door and go sleep” on the next day she told me that she was mad on me because I was in the bathroom with her father and ask me do not do that again because was illegal and I said to her, is not he is my husband and she go and hided herself in a little Corner between my bed and the wall put the blanket over her face and said ” you can’t do that is illegal. He came into the room and just start to ask her with loud voice “what happen, why you are there. What happen tell me tell me. She began to cry as desperate and began to say I don’t know I don’t know, he kept asking and she cried drowned and she said “I don’t know explain myself” and just keep cried Scared Squeezing her hands and fingernails ripping her skin, I said just say it no matter how good it is. Is Ok just say it, But she just looked at him scared crying and could not speak. Them he put her in timeout in the room with a litle light and she is very afraid of the darkness and he knows that.
My son is 11 now and he shows some of these symptoms. I dont want to jump to anything at all, but how do i find the truth? Some of the things he says bother the hairs in the back of my brain
At 54, i’ve suffered from various forms of mental illness all my life. I believe I was sexually abused in childhood possibly by my father, but have no memory. I feel in order to get well, proper diagnosis and treatment, I need to know the truth. How to I uncover any repressed memories?
I think my boyfriend is molesting his own daughters I need to know signs of what to watch for to prove it.ive even tried to get the kids to say something I’m at a crossroads here and he acts shady and distant washes his face smells like sex but we aren’t having sex and he will creep around the house and fake sleep on couch.ive found girls underwear in bathroom garbage?? Strange things are happening should I just leave? It’s all making me sick
Hi, I’m in need of assistance. I’ve just recently been talking to a woman who now is my Finance and we just recently got engaged.
I’ve been noticing for the past year and a half that when we are around her stepfather, she’s been acting different, in front of him. I noticed early on that she was shaking when we first met, and realized she’d been raped…I believe I proved to her that there is good in the world and I’ve been there to protect her when she’d least expect it. Unfortunately, to say the least, I’ve been around her family alot, which is a great thing, until I noticed the relationship between her and her stepfather. Let’s just say things swiped Left very quickly…
Many of the several of things I’ve noticed are, when they (Her and her Stepfather) are having a conversation, they always seem to be communicating in code, and he throws in phrases that he believes I don’t catch. They are usually stated in a sexual connotation. It just doesn’t make sense.
Then I’ve noticed that she dresses differently or powdered up, wearing see through and revealing clothing. I can’t even get her to wear heels, because she complains they hurt her feet, but if he told her to, she does it without question…???
Understandable as her spouse, that I should let her wear what she feels comfortable in, though I know I don’t suffer from low self esteem and I KNOW there is a line that crosses common sense. When we go on dates, she doesn’t get that overly worked up, like she does when he texts her that he’s on his way to our house to pick her up with her mother in the car. Not saying she wears heels with him everywhere, but I am sratating that she is in a relationship and wearing revealing clothing when its freexxzing cold outside is a red flag. It would be snowing outside and she would have her cleavage showing, and would throw a fit when she catches a severe cold.
To be honest, There was a day, that he texted her 2 minutes before arriving to our house and was stuck in shock, with his eyes wide and felt speechless to say,”O…I thought you was at work?”
Which in terms surprised me because, after his daughter and I both moved out of our parents house, got a house together, and away from all the drama.
Shouldn’t there be a understanding that he doesn’t have the necessary right to just jump to our house without alerting the both of us, and not just her? I feel like he’s invading my privacy, just as much as hers. I had respect for him but now he lost it, because I was raised better to not be at a man’s house that he pays bills in, and jist show up unexpectedly.
It just honestly felt wrong for him to just pop up, especially after I questioned her and she said that he texted earlier, but when I read the message myself, he didn’t text until he pulled into the yard. Smh…So they both lied? Why? To cover their tracks? To not add any unwanted attention?
I’m not sure, but she results to saying that not only do they have a “Special,” relationship, but if anyone knows what it feels like to be a cock-Block or third wheel…It made me feel undeniably uncomfortable to around the both of them. It wouldn’t make sense for him to only text my Financé, when he has an entire group chat that is with the entire family, if anything he should have me and her added to our own group chat. Plus she has older siblings, which leaves me scratching my head.
Mindless to say, her mother is handicapped now, and has a lost of memory on some occasions, but she’s told me that she had to take responsibility of everything in the house, cook, clean, and satisfy? When I questioned it, she just looked at me and began telling me a story of them taking long drives on his truck. He was self-employed and drove trucks, she continued to say that while he would be driving, whether it was learning to drive a lawnmower or in the Big-Rig, he would bounce her on his knees. I didn’t think much of it, and I just brushed it off.
Likewise to make matters worse, Every decision we make together, she always turns around and asks her dad and allows him to make the decision not only for her, and us, but somehow allow it to shift andanthe dictate the way our relationship is supposed to turn out.
I’ve read many of several of articles that were naturally cited from woman, though not many by men…but many state that’s its wrong to come at, or make statement concerns about the father in her life.
But I’m noticing too much that deem uncomfortable, like he’s walking “too” close to her when out in public, making sexual remarks, and inviting her out constantly without regards to our plans for that day, he just completely ignores me.
When I confronted him, not about my suspicions, but to stir up normal conversation in front of her, he quickly shifts the conversation to her…It’s beginning to get very annoying and I’ve confronted her, Yes, but she quickly gets into a hype, or big fuss, defending him instead of letting me know nothing of the sort is happening. She says, it’s normal for her to be around her parents house dressing like that, and he “Allows her to be a child of nature?” What? Dressing inappropriately invites unwanted attention, which doesn’t seem to bother her, but when other females notice me and approach me to stir up a conversation she gets upset and trys to get me to stop wearing clothing females find me attractive in.
She’s a grown woman who I feel dresses wrong In front of her Stepfather, but feels though thats it’s ok to him, and ignores my thoughts on the matter.
My Cousin/Friend says I should be proud and allow her to wear as she pleases, that’s not the point though, the point is she can still look beautifully desirable but have respect not to flaunt all her stars in public.
My questions are…
1.) How to convince her that what she wears is inappropriate to me and her stepfather?
2.) Can you provide me with any Serious signs of Incest besides those you listed above, that relate to those I’ve mentioned in my article?
3.) How to approach her correctly about the situation at hand, that I’ve noticed that the relationship between her and her stepfather are far from normal, and what hints or facial expressions, answers I should look out for; that she may use to obscure the conversation elsewhere?
4.) Is there any down to earth question I could ask her to spill the secret, between her and her stepfather, beyond the abuse of other men that she endured while growing up?
In the end, I talk to her with utter silence, because she doesn’t know what to expect from me, doesn’t know what to say or think, and it really does feel like it’s working. I work, I buy new clothes, pay bills, and ultimately focus on myself.
The answer is quite clear here. There’s no symptoms and ways of acting that are a giveaway, for you’ve already made your suspicions and opinions clear, that you do believe there’s stuff going on. She obviously wants to dress up for the guy and there’s an element of consent there from what you’re saying. What can you do? Nothing at all. She likes the situation. Would anyone marry or be with a person like that in such a situation? Most with sound minds wouldn’t and would get out of it. Based on what you’re saying your suspicions are that she’s screwing the crap out of the guy and they’re close when there’s nothing you can do about it because it’s hushed up by her. The 4 questions you are asking answers for are meaningless. You’ve already given yourself the answers by the sound of things. The real question should be: WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO MARRY THE PERSON?
P.S Lastly, you’re written about the person you are going to marry with such suspicion that all the answers are already there. Why on earth are you marrying this person? To write about a person you are going to marry in such a way on a public forum is also astoundingly obvious. You shouldn’t be getting married is the answer.
Please email me, I really need to talk to you.
This blog is utterly ridiculous. It’s obsessional, written and updated by a very friggin weird character that clearly gets off on incest. Reading people’s stupid accounts of bias (wanting to gang up on a person) and fantasy land (getting kicks) along with the overt ‘symptoms’ rubbish, which leaves no subtly whatsoever about such a phenomena, all makes for a stupendous blog. The symptoms of incest are just crap. There’s no symptoms for many people who think they may have been sexually abused when younger. The mind may compartmentalize events or it may not, and could fabricate experiences around reality later on (false memory). There’s no definitive answer. Reading about a person discussing such crap with a psychiatrist!!?? The last thing you’d want to do is discuss this with a psychiatrist – they simply are highly overpaid medication drug dealers, nothing more nothing less, making notes which are stored permanently. In fact the more you talk it’ll make your place in the world much worse for the authorities will have records. The authorities are not about fixing problems but capitalising off problems via the use of pharma sales and ‘therapy economy’ (which never fixes anything over the long term – proven). The only time something can be done is if there’s evidence and it becomes a legal matter, which the media love to promote.. all about making matters embarrassing and far worse. Many people not admitting to consensual incest who are accessories do so out of financial gain and security they get from such a family scenario. However, there’s situations of horrific abuse which psychiatry and psychology does nothing about other than profit from, and the Police rarely act in favour of victims, and when they do it destroys the family unit, financially, domestically, entirely.. the repercussions are long term and huge. Much of what is written in this blog caters for fixing nothing for victims, at the end of the day people move on with their lives or they don’t and stay stuck.
I have been married then divorced. From a man who I suspect incest with his mom….she moved in with us and I saw it first hand, she riled my house, made decisions and when confronted by me he and I argued, he was caught lying next to her back to front in bed, he said when he was little they later in bed and talked. He bathed her for awhile, she said she couldn’t do it herself, he would sneak lotion bottles to her tbat she left in bathroom for some reason, she wanted him to do everything her her…..when it was time for him to come home from work she would freshen up and sit at table waiting for him, there was so so much. Today he drinks more than ever she died in 2008 and his sexual partners are male and female. Very isolated, loner, not social, bad idea about himself and very verbal abusive to me and lies like I never seen before. Everything is a secrete, private and doesn’t share…..I have lived in hell.
OK I am having a problem with m girl right now because I really believe that something is going on with her and her youngest son he is 13 years old and I have seen him grab her in very strange ways every time she goes to bathroom he is in there I have caught him in there when she is in the shower but she said that he is her baby he still sleeping in the bed with her at 13 years old i have tried to talk to her about the situation but she seems to think it’s nothing wrong with it but I do I really really need some help don’t know who to go to she has three other kids but her bond with her youngest son is something I have never seen can someone please tell me what I need to do about the situation
I have an on-off relationship with a very immature, unstable woman age 47. She is a high school math teacher but socially very inept. She has a 17 year-old son. I believe there is incest going on in their home. The son demands that his mom routinely check in with him on Whatsapp, and vice versa. The mom even sends photos and locations of where she is any given moment. She has no rules in the household. The son threatened me several times after his mom and I had argued. They each have their own room, but they sleep in the same bed (kng size) every night. The son has even hit his mom, although she insisted to me he only pushed her onto the bed on one occasion. The son curses at his mom repeatedly and calls her “stupid” and blasts her decision-making. He even threatened to kick her out of the house if she and I continued dating. Also, during one tirade I overheard, he proclaimed, “I gave you both permission to date. I gave you permission to be with him and you both messed up”. She and I began dating again without his knowledge, but she would begin shaking whenever he would message her, and worse if he called. I definitely feel she has given him the role of her “man” and that there is sex going on here. Please tell me your thoughts on this, guys. ?
I am in a relationship with a woman that I really believe in my heart she is having a relationship with her 13 year old son because I have seen so much from the two of them when I was a child growing up I never wonted to be in the bathroom with my mother while she was un dress this 13 year old has touched his mom in so many ways that I don’t approve of he sleeps in the bed with her when I am not there told her about how I feel but she said when he is in the bed she sleeps with clothes on but I came there one night and she had on a t shirt and panties but he only had on some gim shorts and they where under the cover very strange I have seen him take her hand and put it on his private she don’t say anything but he’s spoil something is going on with the two of them and it’s very sick
I need some comments on what I should do about the situation
I am afraid so but I am trying to find out what can we do about the situation because the damage has already been done now but it really need to be stopped
can anyone respond to my query?
Hi, so my girlfriend is a very overly sexual being…she likes to be naked in public and to unbotton her shirts to where her breasts fully show…she knows these things make me uncomfortable so she doesn’t do them as much while we are dating…she says she does it for herself but I can’t wrap my head around that..seems twisted. Ok so my girl has also had a drinking problem for about 10 years that she is in recovery from.. i attributed her loss of inhibitions and desire to get naked and attention to the fact that she was a drunk… But now ai am gettig worried because once a log time ago she told me her dad used to take out his dick when he was drunk and herom would take her shirt off when she was high….so this us where the whole story culminates.and my big question comes in…. I went to her birthday dinner and met her family and her and I were tipsy and when her sister said “the baby’s hungry” and someone passed her the baby my girlfriend shouted “pull your breasts out”…. And I got really embarrassed I ended up leaving the party… I took my girl back the next day because she was really upset and explained that it wasnt meant in perversion she was just drunk and has no filter…. What is going on here? What should I do?? Iaaked her if she had said it because she wanted to see her ssiters breasts and she fervently said no…. Any insight? I am so ashamed and confused.
I hope I get a reply however my current ex partner I believe him and his mother do sexual things together or are incest it crosses my mind terribly and it’s really killing me to know if however they’re incest, my ex boyfriend and his mother have a weird relationship. I remember one time a few months ago me him and his mother was in a store and my boyfriend at the time was sitting on a couch in the store and his mom was standing up near him however she started like joking around at first with him and wouldn’t leave him alone then out of no where she started touching him inappropriately like his penis area with her hands and was rubbing his dick now keep in mind my ex now is 27 now and she started moaning his name in the store and people where around it was so embarrassing and then some older man walked by and she looked at the random man and started laughing and said “you gotta pick with your kids sometimes” I understand it’s okay to pick with your children but not in that manner and she denies that to this day like why would a mother do that Infront of his girlfriend that he’d been with for two years and think nothing of it I was dying to get out of that store, they both have a past of heroine however I have a kid by this guy which is my babies father and in the past with them being on heroine they would do it in the bathroom together and he’d be sitting on the toilet with his dick all out with her in there like at 26 ur mother shouldn’t be with you in a bathroom at the time I was pregnant and I just didn’t know what to do, she also in the past would try to start drama with me constantly just about every day and if Michael never came over that day to see her or if his mom was to call and she tells him oh I am making dinner you gonna come up and if he didn’t she would get all mad and have nothing to do with him her youngest son pisses on his self and he’s 12 years old like he will be sitting on the floor or at school and not even get up to go to the bathroom just straight out pee on his self he also has anger issues and isn’t right in the head and the way she acted towards me it’s like she was and is til this day jealous of me she just would throw off jealous behavior towards me being with or around Michael … She constantly brags about everything she has and it was her birthday and me and Michael was together and he was like I know what I’m going to get her for her birthday I’m gonna buy my mom some pretty victoria secret panties I looked him dead in his face and said MICHAEL you do not buy your mother Victoria secret panties I had gotten mad at him and had to explain to him no guy at 27 years old should buy there mom Victoria secret panties I just don’t understand there relationship and she constantly on certain Occasions would grab his dick and rub on him moaning his name just certain times she would I’ve wanted to ask and say something but I just can’t I want to know so badly what’s going on with them like no mother should ever just jokingly moan there sons name and grab his private part and put her hands on it there’s more to that than joking how do I approach the situation or even come close to finding out if the two are in cest does this sound like in cest to you? Are relationship was bad and he did abuse me and had major trust issues when he knew deep down I was faithful certain situations like if we fought and I left to Kool off I’d come back to to not find him and then later he’d come out he’d be under the bed hiding there’s a bunch of weird things I’ve witnessed it’s hard to explain it all
Hi love the blog . i REALLY CAN USE YOUR HELP AND SUPPORT HONESTLY YES I KNOW THIS BLOG IS OLD , BUT I AM MISERABLE HERE … I HAVE BEEN WITH THIS GUY GOING ON 6 YEARS AND HIS WHOLE FAMILY IS IN BREED . LONG STORY SHORT HE IS THE YOUNGEST OF 3 THE ONLY BOY HIS FAMILY BRAIN WASHED HIM RAPED HIM LONG AGO NOW HIS SISTERS ARE IN LOVE WITH THE FAMILY GIVES ME HELL ITS REALLY A DEMONIC SPIRIT AND WHITCH CRAFT. OVER HIS FAMILY SO THE TIME ME AND HIM BEEN TOGETHER I JUST AM TIRED OF THE HURT . HE TRYING TO STOP HE KNOWS I KNOW . PLEASE HELP ME AND CONTACT ME QASAP
hello i just recently found this forum. I just recently caught my boyfriend cheating. He stays in denial so I broke up with him. Now I still spy on him from time to time. over the past 2 weeks, I started digging deeper. Recently I was outside his apartment eavesdropping and I heard more bangs than the original Batman and Robin when they were fighting the bad guys. I heard sexual moaning. Mostly his voice. He was saying uhh baby, etc, SO i stayed at the door which is aluminum and kept listening. I said to myself ok got him in the act, Well I bammed on the door after all the same noises continued. He yelled huh and opened the door, I started yelling, ” yeh she in there, meaning another woman. He said, me and my daughter in here, I said ok let me see. So we headed to her room and he said man we trying to sleep. The little girl who is 16 was under the covers and drinking something. so who was that banging and that sure in the hell was him moaning sexually. when i proceeded to leave i noticed his pants were on but not zipped. Now that I suspect that he is having sex with his daughter. I look back on how he has acted towards her, if she on the phone he wants to know with whom. they play like children play when we were growing up. she slaps him on the butt, i have just started noticing a lot of stuff. and he always buying her gifts and flies her in n out of here to ga, that’s where the mom is, like 5 times a year. He only makes like 45 a year. that is a lot of flights. it’s even been times where she will come for like a week and i won’t here from here. now I’m like wow this may really be going on. shoot i want to report him but cant prove it.
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I’ve been dating this girl for 1 year and 4 months and we’ll near half way in the year of being together is when it first happened she asked her father to have sex with her and later that night me and her was over video chat and laying in his bed he came in a hour later and they done it she knocked the phone down 30 minutes in and a hour later she got the phone back up but she was moaning and enjoying it she told me she did to she said she’s the one who wanted it she said but I don’t think she was in the right mind but it happened 3 more times after that and she done it all behind my back. Last time it happened was August I called the cops and everything they wouldn’t believe it and she told me all this a mouth ago or 2 but I’m looking for signs to see if it’s still going on she is always mean to me and yells and treats me bad like she’s always making excuses to go in the living room where that nasty father is and I try and keep her away from him but I’m looking for signs. Is there anyway you could tell me some that would indicate that she is still doing it if you can. Thanks
A lot of your facts are 100% accurate , and I’m very new to this so its defiantly a SHOCK!
I recently started dating this lady, for about three months. One day I was standing in her bedroom after just had left her taking a bath. She was in there laid back smoking a joint nothing covering her privates. While I see her 12 year old son go into the restroom. So immediately I go in after she is still in the bath 🛁 naked. After he left I asked what f is wrong her, she says that’s my son, I explained how I felt strongly about that being child abuse. Her response was defensive so I left the house. Let be known that in my opinion I feel as if her and her son is in a relationship of incest. Since that instance I have seen many sign of this. Here is list.
Each time I leave the apartment, I come back she is in her underwear. We share a room but her always goes in her son’s room to change. He now walks around the house with only something around his waist. Whenever he is in the bathroom he just goes in. We know that he masterbate a lot be she still walks around with just her panties on